Good Morning Lovelies!
I saw this on Free Form Happiness and thought it was a great idea, especially since I started my blog in the middle of 2015, and you guys didn’t get to see the whole year pan out, but here we go!
What I learned in 2015
Thinking back on last year, I really notice two things:
- 2015 flew by INSANELY fast.
- It was not the toughest year, but a progressive year.
When we first got married in 2013, it was tough. You can look back on my first blog post about that first year HERE and see that it was by no means a honeymoon phase. We really struggled that first year, and honestly on into 2014 we were still trying to recover from it. Debt is not something I would wish on my worst enemy!
Starting 2015, we were in a slightly better place, financially and relationship wise. I was no longer miserable at work and had found a job I truly enjoyed and looked forward to every day, Tyler was enjoying Me enjoying work and not being a total witch when I got off work, we were on top of our bills and getting things paid off, it was going well! Not saying we didn’t have rough days, we definitely did. We had days where we didn’t have food in the house, we didn’t know what we were going to do. But here’s the thing: there were a whole lot LESS of those days than in the previous two years, and that was a good thing.
So, back on track, what did I learn this past year? Well, I’ve compiled a list of the valuable things I’ve learned. Here we go:
- Enjoy Time with Family
This year, so many have been lost to illness, accidents, and simply old age or natural causes. My family is spread over several states, including my dad who works in West Virginia and gets to come home once a month. I didn’t realize how much I missed all of them until the holidays rolled around and it felt like years since we’d been together. Value that family time, and make every effort to see those you love. You never know when it will be the last time!
- It could be Worse
Literally, every situation could be worse. Nothing is life threatening, unless of course it really is life threatening, but you know what I mean. Just take it in stride and put your big girl panties (or, for my male audience, big boy undies) on and deal with it. Dealing with your problems rationally and like an adult will help you in more ways than you could imagine.
- CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES
This is a big one for me. I’m very stubborn and will fight until I’m heard or I get my point across. That might be an awesome trait in the workplace, but it has no place in a marriage. I learned that the little things aren’t worth fighting over, and that everyone will be much happier if you just LET IT GO.
- Patience really is a virtue
I’m impatient. I want things right then and there, and when I put my mind to it, I usually get what I’m after. But, again, there’s no place in a marriage for that. Being patient with my husband has been the most trying thing I’ve ever done, but it’s also been the most rewarding. Over the past few months, I’ve taken a step back and let him really fall into the role of a leader, and taken my place as his help-mate. Not saying I don’t still try to nudge him in certain directions, but for the most part, I’ve relinquished the reins. I realized that me pushing was making him withdraw and fight me tooth and nail. I’m not supposed to be the leader, he is. I’ve watched him take on that responsibility, and we may have flub-ups, but we’re still young and we’re learning this together.
- Schedules and To-Do Lists are a MUST:
With a crazy schedule like mine, it’s easy to get lost in the exhaustion and frustration. Being away from home upwards of 12 hours a day is exhausting, but over the past few months I’ve honed my cleaning and cooking schedule down to something that works for my household. If something unexpected comes up, it still throws a kink in my schedule, but I make it work. I’ve also discovered the wonders of THE FAMILY BINDER, thank’s to Thirty Handmade Days. This thing is my playbook and lifeline of my household. It has everything from a daily schedule to emergency contacts and insurance info. It keeps all of my need-to-know info in one safe place. Seriously, check it out! (I’ll do a post on everything that’s in my Family Binder later tonight and show yall what it looks like)
And last but not least, the most important lesson I’ve learned this year:
- Not in my time, but in God’s time
There are several things that I have prayed for and expected to already have in my life, and it has not come about. When I think about it, I get upset and mad, but a few weeks ago, our preacher was speaking on timing, and how the more we fight and get angry when we don’t get our way, we can’t see that maybe it’s just not the right time. God’s timing is always perfect, and even though, like the children we are, we may pout and get mad and question Him, he knows what’s best for us. I started writing a prayer journal this year as well, so at the end of 2016 I can look back and see just how things played out on HIS timing. If you’re not religious, this may not apply to you, but I am a firm believer in my faith and that no matter what, my faith will see us through anything.
It doesn’t seem like much, but these lessons have completely changed my day-to-day life. Things are slowly, but surely, getting better. Life is changing, and my marriage is flourishing. Everyone has bad days, but as long as the good out-weigh the bad, then you’re on the right track.
What did you guys and gals learn this past year? Let me know in the comments!